8 Things You DO NOT Want To DO On Your 1st Date

First Date

By Belinda Art

Having problems getting a second date, here is an important “Do Not Do” list on your first date. It’s time to check if you are unintentionally making any one of these common mistakes that taunt women.

Without further ado:


1. Don’t Go Out If You are Not in the Right State of Mind

On your first date, you want to be able to relax and have.  You want to be warm, friendly and lighten up and unwind.  However…

Reschedule if the day doesn’t feel right.

Here is what you don’t want to experience.  “I once went on a date just after getting news of a friend’s death. Clearly, it’s wasn’t attractive to stare blankly into space, be half into the conversation and go through the whole date barely holding back tears. Though I previously told him the reason for my behavior, it was just too much baggage for a first date so it wasn’t his fault.” 

Make sure you go on your dates when you’re able to be focused emotionally and give off a cheerful mellow attitude.

2. Don’t Accept Inappropriate Timing

It’s a good idea to schedule your first date before the sun goes down.  Don’t agree to get together, let’s say after 8 or 9 pm.  Since getting to know each other is what first dates are for, meeting late at night for so many reasons is NOT going to help you accomplish that. 

3. Don’t Drown Out Your Date

Don’t talk so much about yourself that your date can barely get a word in. Make an effort so the conversation between you and your date is balanced.

You don’t want to be seen as a self-absorbed person. Men find that quite unsexy. Ask your date questions and be attentive to the answers he gives. 

4. Don’t Get Intimate with Your Phone

I’ve seen a case where a woman was texting through a whole date at a restaurant. After a long time of awkward silence, the guy ran out of patience and told the woman she’s too occupied to meet up with him again, then he walked right out.  Ok, maybe she wasn’t into him and was trying to get rid of him.  But why leave that kind of impression to anyone?

If you cannot avoid taking that call or responding to a text, politely excuse yourself from the table and go somewhere private and handle the call/ text there.

Your date should have your full focus. You both deserve that. 

5. Don’t Forget Your Table Manners.

This is an obvious one. Chew with your mouth closed. Don’t wolf down your food like you’re never going to eat again. Control your slurping sound… and lastly, licking your fingers is an absolute no. Project “lady-like”.

6. Don’t Show Him Your Insecurities  

Confidence is what you are looking for.

Don’t attempt to get reassurance from him about how good your outfit looks or if he takes a liking to you or whatever. If you feel the nerves in your stomach could make you want the ground to open up and swallow you, keep it yourself.

READ MORE : How you can be confident and be more attractive.

7. Don’t Show Desperation

Yup, you may desperately want a huge wedding, two beautiful kids and a picket fence as soon as possible. Keep them to yourself. You think he may be your soul mate?  Keep that also to yourself. These may be life goals for you but to your date, it would seem that you are jumping the gun.

8. Don’t Get Drunk  (Last but not least)

Aiming for that nervous mess or complete booze crazy look?  Ok, just order one more drink.  A lot of guys don’t see themselves having a long-term relationship with a woman that can go shot after shot with them. It’s a good idea to place a restriction of two drinks only on yourself.

Learn More

Why men lose interest and what you can do about it. Watch the following video where one of our relationship experts James Bauer exposes 7 special phrases that help trigger a man’s burning desire to devote himself to a woman. It’s something you can learn once and use for the rest of your life.

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